This piece jumped out at me as I came across it on their site. It got me thinking about my own habit of making excuses to avoid dealing with discomfort and messiness in my life. But you know it also holds me back. Why do I make excuses though? The best explanation I have is ‘rejection’. I fear being rejected because I’ve somehow come to equate my self-worth with how others accept me or not. Thus, I avoid trying new things if there’s an element of possible rejection involved. You can see why I’ve not had much luck with getting out and accomplishing things now, right? It’s sad and I feel ashamed but it isn’t irreversible, I just need to ask my self why I started thinking about rejection as such a large barrier. What made me think getting rejected meant I wasn’t valuable as a person? People get rejected all the time! I’ve never thought of anyone getting rejected/turned down for something as being an indication they were somehow not worthy; yet that’s what I’ve been telling myself (unconsciously). Now that it’s out in the open I suppose I have to do something about it! Help!!!
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