Wow, I just finished cleaning out a coat closet that hasn’t been organized or cleaned in 20+ years. There was all sorts of stuff in there that I just looked at and shook my head. My parents never threw anything out and this closet was a “storage” closet essentially. Stuff would fall out if you opened the door because things were thrown in all ‘willy-nilly’. I got tired of thinking about how I should clean it sometime. So I managed to clear out three garbage bags full of junk that was in there. After I finished I felt like I had accomplished something. Of course there’s more to purge and clean but for now I’m pleased I got that task done. My parents are both hoarders, my mom died a few years ago so her hoarding stopped thankfully; my dad on the other hand just keeps things he doesn’t really need. Because I live with my dad I try to help him out where possible. Housekeeping is helpful to him because he has little ability to keep any space tidy and/or clean. It’s not a priority to him so he just leaves it go and I end up trying to keep on top of things.
I’m hoping my dad will look at the stuff I put in garbage bags and agree it’s junk. There’s a possibility he might want to keep some of it! 😛 Hopefully he’ll not want to keep the stuff though.
The portfolio workshop I have been taking for the past two months is almost over. It ends April 29 and my last counselling appointment is the 30th. I am not too sure what I’ll do next because I doubt I will get a job right away. As for counselling, I may leave it go for awhile. The sessions I’ve had with my counsellor have been okay but I don’t feel like I want to carry on with another counsellor afterward because of cost (also it’s hard to just go from one counsellor to another without a break in between to process things). Therapy or counselling should not be so expensive. I know therapists need to make a living but when you’re unemployed like I am it stinks being charged $40 each appointment. My dad has been picking up the tab but I still think it’s unfair to be charged that much when I have no income. Thankfully I have my dad but it makes me think there must be more people out there with little money unable to partake in therapy or counselling due to cost. There are of course the free places but they have wait lists that can be quite long unless you’re in a crisis. I don’t think it’s a very good set-up when you have to wait to see someone six months to two years, in some cases, or be in an acute crisis to see someone in a month usually.
Fortunately, my dad has looked at the garbage bags and allowed me to get rid of the stuff. This is good news because I wasn’t keen to keep any of it. Too bad most of it is not really in good enough condition to give to charity. It will have to be thrown out with the garbage 😦 Normally we are pretty reasonable and have little garbage anyway so we should be able to get rid of the bags without halving them for the following pick up date.
I feel like it’s been a really long “Spring Cleaning” period this year. We’ve gotten rid of so much clutter and cleaned a lot. It’s been very therapeutic for me because I lived for many years not allowed to touch the stuff. After my mom’s death we started the clean up process and it has not stopped. We have not been constant in our efforts though because of energy levels and mood. In the case of death you have grief to complicate an otherwise straight forward clean up effort. Although it has been 4 and a half years my dad has been slow moving forward with his grief and I’ve had to be respectful of that and not try to purge everything in one or two sessions. Instead it has been a series of MANY decluttering sessions, some large and some small, interspersed with periods of inertia.
Have you ever had to clean up or clear out someone’s belongings after they’ve died? Were they pack rats too?
- 3 ways to calm a distressed mind (lovethatmax.com)
- What is psychotherapy? (juliedesjardinsblog.wordpress.com)