Does anyone else find it utterly annoying to have someone constantly talking about stuff
that isn’t all that important or interesting? I get how it’s an effort to reach out and connect with someone but it doesn’t achieve the purpose at all with me. My dad talks all the time about things I consider not worth mentioning or talking about. Yes, I am a bit of an anomaly as a woman I suppose in not enjoying chatter for its own sake. More and more I find myself wanting to have silence. It’s like I’m too comfortable with my own thoughts and having nothing to listen to but the whir of a table fan. Sometimes that gets annoying too though and I end up turning it off to enjoy the silence more.
What is it that makes me disdain listening to someone talk on and on about basically nothing? Is this something anyone else can relate to or am I simply on my own here? Of course I sound totally unfriendly telling you all this but I am happy to converse or listen to stimulating conversation. Heck, even something unstimulating but new is better than hearing the same thing all the time. If my dad has something to say I haven’t had to listen to already before that’s better than his usual conversation; which is, in my opinion, a way to fill the silence with anything he can think of.
Just so you have an idea of what I’m talking about concerning meaningless conversation I’ll give you a few examples. One would be bringing up what to have for a meal (he eats meat and I don’t so I typically can’t offer suggestions he likes). This is not interesting for me and I usually feel irritation when he asks me about meal choices since I can barely cook anything! Another example would be talking about something he is interested in intensely and not considering that I am not interested in the least. He’ll converse about these interests frequently and often not noticing my complete lack of interest. Specifically, he talks a lot about cars. I have zero interest in the mechanics of cars and anything else about them-except for perhaps their fuel economy because that impacts the environment.
Why am I telling you all this anyway you may wonder? Well I want to know if I am being antisocial somehow or unfair. Is it unfair to want a bit of silence? My dad and me are both introverts but me more so. Am I not being sociable enough? To my mind, it is unnecessary to speak if there is nothing of importance to say. I realize that likely makes me sound like a bit of a crank or something but it’s how it is. This also extends to social media but I can tune out what I don’t like there. Real life is not so simple.
Okay, I’m done with my ranting. If you survived this long I thank you for persevering.